Well, that was me, my username has always been tanisnikana, cause Tanis Nikana is the name I had at birth. Eventually I decided changing it is too hard. Just kept it.
Parents were white Americans on an Air Force base in rural Japan. They gave me an Irish boyâs name that would be reasonably smooth in katakana. I transitioned to female at 28, kept it, pronunciation and spelling (ăżăăš) and all. A lot of people think my last name is Japanese too, but it isnât. Iâm not sure where it came from. I learned English when I moved to America when I was 11. Most people donât know I can speak Japanese from looking at me.
Yeah, fairly well, but it stunted when I was eleven, cause I had to learn English. Even now at 41, Iâm actively studying both languages. I have a trip to Tokyo in January, and Iâm dreading getting the old ćĽćŹčŞä¸ć from people who look at me and think I canât speak.
Generous of you to assume I even read katakana. Hiragana? Anyway deepl translates it as âproficient in Japaneseâ from Chinese, interestingly. But maybe thatâs just them trying to tell them apart.
So I read that people asking you if you understand them in a language you might not understand?
IMHO a middle name feels very much like a last name to me, in that the gender doesnât really matter to most people. Iâve met plenty of cis people with a gendered middle name that doesnât match their gender.
Granted it matters more in some cultures than others, and Iâm absolutely not trying to tell you how to feel about it. Iâm just letting you know that if you stuck with it, it wouldnt be that outside the norm.
Good thing Iâm cis because the mail I use for everything is literally ânamesurnameâ.
And fun fact: in Italy, your âfiscal codeâ (which is like a social security number) is computed from name, sex, place of birth, and time of birth, so when you change name (or assigned sex), that changes as well. I think itâs opt-in and you could keep your dead name and assigned sex on it⌠ButâŚ
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Pissman2020 was an S tier username, but itâs not for me anymore
what about Pisscreature2026?
Well, that was me, my username has always been tanisnikana, cause Tanis Nikana is the name I had at birth. Eventually I decided changing it is too hard. Just kept it.
From the perspective of an international audience, the name sounds fairly unisex. Is it actually gendered in your own language?
Parents were white Americans on an Air Force base in rural Japan. They gave me an Irish boyâs name that would be reasonably smooth in katakana. I transitioned to female at 28, kept it, pronunciation and spelling (ăżăăš) and all. A lot of people think my last name is Japanese too, but it isnât. Iâm not sure where it came from. I learned English when I moved to America when I was 11. Most people donât know I can speak Japanese from looking at me.
And given that you grew up with Japanese you probably speak it quite well, to the surprise of most Japanese.
Yeah, fairly well, but it stunted when I was eleven, cause I had to learn English. Even now at 41, Iâm actively studying both languages. I have a trip to Tokyo in January, and Iâm dreading getting the old ćĽćŹčŞä¸ć from people who look at me and think I canât speak.
Generous of you to assume I even read katakana. Hiragana? Anyway deepl translates it as âproficient in Japaneseâ from Chinese, interestingly. But maybe thatâs just them trying to tell them apart.
So I read that people asking you if you understand them in a language you might not understand?
ćĽćŹčŞä¸ć is often said to non-Japanese people with a bit of sarcasm, sadly.
Thank god discord you can change your display name and even username. I would have had to make a new account.
unfortunately, itâs also discord
I chose this username as a kid and⌠uh⌠it kinda worked out.
My Kurdish birth-name is a boysâ name in Turkish and a girlsâ name is Kurdish.
Except my genius self still used their explicitly male middle-name for all online accounts.
IMHO a middle name feels very much like a last name to me, in that the gender doesnât really matter to most people. Iâve met plenty of cis people with a gendered middle name that doesnât match their gender.
Granted it matters more in some cultures than others, and Iâm absolutely not trying to tell you how to feel about it. Iâm just letting you know that if you stuck with it, it wouldnt be that outside the norm.
Aww thank you, I feel better now :3
exactly why my nickname was flitzy :3
Good thing Iâm cis because the mail I use for everything is literally ânamesurnameâ.
And fun fact: in Italy, your âfiscal codeâ (which is like a social security number) is computed from name, sex, place of birth, and time of birth, so when you change name (or assigned sex), that changes as well. I think itâs opt-in and you could keep your dead name and assigned sex on it⌠ButâŚ
German pension insurance number does that as well. It has gender in it, but only first letter of the name.